Welcome to a New Understanding of Love
Today, I had this overwhelming urge to talk about love—the kind that comes from the source, God, the universe (whatever you believe in). The love we receive from others. The love we give to others. And most importantly, the love we give to ourselves. Love shows up in two forms: conditional and unconditional.
Unconditional love is what we all long for—the kind of love that’s been dismissed as a fairytale, but I’m here to tell you it absolutely exists. It just doesn’t always look the way we were taught to expect. Conditional love, on the other hand, is what most of us experience. It’s the love that’s given when we behave in a way that aligns with someone else’s expectations of us.
The Trap of Conditional Love
The reason so many of us fear change—why we hesitate to be our true selves—is because we’ve only ever known conditional love. We’re afraid that if we step outside the version of ourselves that people are comfortable with, they won’t love us the same—or maybe at all. So we shrink, we mold ourselves to fit the expectations of others, and in doing so, we place limits on our own existence.
But here’s the kicker: they never truly saw you to begin with. If you had to hide parts of yourself to receive love, then what they love isn’t the real you—it’s a version of you shaped by their perception. That means their love isn’t fully real, because real love requires knowing. And you can’t be truly loved until you allow yourself to be truly known.
Now, I’m not saying you need to share every little detail of your life with everyone. But when you hide the fundamental parts of who you are, you’re depriving yourself of the kind of love that frees you. You shouldn’t have to mask your deepest truths. And the beautiful thing? You don’t have to.
It’s a Two-Way Street
This brings me to an important point: conditional love isn’t just something we receive—it’s also something we give. If we only see people based on the parts of themselves they’ve chosen to show us, then we’re doing the same thing to them. And that’s where things get really interesting.
If you’re afraid to reveal your whole self because you don’t trust others to love you unconditionally, that means you don’t love them unconditionally either. You don’t trust them to hold space for your truth.
So, what’s the solution? You have to give yourself the love you’re looking for. Or you have to give others the love you wish to receive.
Put simply: what you give is what you get. If you want unconditional love, give it. If you receive unconditional love, honor it.
How Unconditional Love Actually Works
There’s a lot of misunderstanding about unconditional love. Many of us were taught to search for it in others, but the truth is, no one can give you something you’re unwilling to receive. And love—especially unconditional love—is no exception.
Unconditional love is the highest form of love, but that doesn’t mean we naturally recognize it. If we’ve been conditioned to believe we’re only worthy under certain conditions, then we’ll resist or even reject true, unconditional love when it comes our way.
This is why it all starts within. You have to cultivate it within yourself first. When you do that, something shifts. You start to recognize it. You start to attract it. You start to accept it. Unlike conditional love, which is full of rules and expectations, unconditional love is rooted in complete acceptance. And with that comes freedom—the freedom to be exactly who you are.
When you love yourself unconditionally, you give yourself permission to pursue your dreams because they matter to you. You validate yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it. You tap into reserves of strength, faith, and resilience that you didn’t even know were in you. That’s powerful. That’s empowering. And that’s the love you deserve.
The Love of the Universe
The love of the universe is unconditional—it’s the only kind of love it knows how to give. And this is where free will comes in. Free will means limitless ways to express yourself, limitless possibilities for your life. The only limits you experience are the ones you believe in.
Through free will, the universe shows you that you are loved no matter what you do or experience. It doesn’t place conditions on you. And when you give yourself that same kind of love—when you stop setting conditions on your own worth—you align with the universe. That’s when you step into your true self.
Everything is energy, including love. When you vibrate at the frequency of unconditional love, you align with the highest source. And from that place, you can co-create, manifest, and step into the life that was meant for you all along.
Unconditional self-love is courage, permission, validation, strength, forgiveness, freedom, and faith—all wrapped in one.
The Truth
We’ve been taught to accept and expect conditional love and disregard unconditional love as imporobable. But the real truth? We have to give it to ourselves first.
And when you do, something incredible happens: you realize that the love you were searching for was within you all along. You don’t need it from an external source to feel whole. You don’t need someone else to prove you’re worthy.
You are enough. Just as you are. And when you fully embrace that, your entire world changes. You stop chasing love, and love starts flowing to you effortlessly.
If you’re interested in how this all ties into manifestation, check out my post on manifestation. But for now, just sit with this truth:
You are love. You are loved. And you always have been.
Thank you for reading. I hope your life is filled with boundless, unconditional love.
As always—live authentically, live well, and dream boldly.